Effective Decision-Making

“Our decisions always affect others.” This quote was really impressed in my mind, after I watched the DVD “These Words Must Be on Your Heart.” Though we are free to make some choices and decisions, every choice has an effect – positive or negative – on our life and on the lives of others. So we should think carefully about the decision we are to make, as well as its possible consequences. Take time. Don’t rush into decision-making. You’ll then see how good decision-making will make you feel better and improve your life situation.

Here are a few suggestions to make better decisions:

  • Gather information. If you are about to purchase a house or a car, gather the necessary information. Make sure you didn’t miss important details.
  • Ask advice from others. Will you soon get married? Approach an experienced couple. Or do you want to take on a full-time job but you have a family to care for? Ask your friends who have families.
  • Think, think, think. Don’t only think twice. Think many times. Think about the pros and cons of making such a decision.
  • Put your thoughts into writing. This is an effective way to put your thoughts to writing as well as organize what’s in your mind.
  • Sleep on the matter. Usually you’ll feel better afterwards. So try to take some time. Don’t rush or you’ll end up making unwise decisions.

So here are just a few pieces of advice I can give. And if you’ve mastered the art of decision-making, you’ll have a happier, better life.


Who Says Introverts Don’t Feel Lonely?

Introverts, according to psychological theory, are people whose energy are directed inward – on their own thoughts and feelings. They are generally more reserved and quiet than extraverts. Introverts are people who find pleasure in having some lone time, in doing solitary activities such as reading, writing, meditating, and spending time with nature. Though introverts generally prefer being alone, they feel lonely too.

I am an introvert. There are instances when I would just withdraw from the crowd and do the things I love to do – that may be reading, writing, blogging, playing some music, strolling, and going to the mall. Every time I engage in a social gathering, I feel weak and drained afterwards. When I have no choice but to socialize with people, I use my very limited energy in spending time with them. And I am willing to do so. But I feel weak and drained afterwards. It’s really funny. And that’s just me.

Though I enjoy being alone, I feel lonely too. That’s why I need someone to talk to at times. I need someone to lean on. I need to have a trusted friend whom I can always tell my worries freely. So, who says introverts don’t feel lonely?


We Need Some Diversions

Of course you think. And think. And think about life’s problems. Every moment of worrying just makes you feel downhearted, discouraged. But I tell you. Don’t dwell on it. I’m not telling you that it will never come in to your mind. There are some relapses. Expect it. The next time you think about your worries, try to have some sort of diversion. Yes, diversion.

Divert yourself into something positive, something meaningful. Try doing something worthwhile. Try giving to other people. It will never fail to make you feel better. But don’t give merely to make yourself feel better. Give to make others feel that they are loved and appreciated. Do some sports. Write. Learn something new. Read God’s Word. Plant. Take care of a pet. Get yourself busy. These are only some ways by which you can feel better, happier.

So the next time you worry, do some diversion. You can do it.


Do not Lose Spirit

There really are times when we feel that the world has come crashing down. Everything bright has turned grey and black. It’s as if we are doing the battle all alone.

In times like this, we should never lose spirit or totally give up on our fight. At some point we may slow down, we may fall. But we should keep going, keep running to our destination. Remember that life is a game. If we give up, we are the losers.

I have been to several struggles. And I would say that in each struggle, I’ve improved as a person. I’ve become stronger and wiser. So when you feel that you’re about to give up, get up and get going. Continue with the fight. I know you can do it.


When Loneliness Attacks

Everyone feels lonely. At some point in our lives, we feel that nobody cares for us. It’s as if we are wearing invisible cloaks and people just don’t see us. It really is a sad thing.

But don’t lose spirit. It’s completely normal to feel that way. Even the seemingly successful people experience loneliness too. What’s important is we identify the reasons why we feel the way we do, attempt to manage our feeling, and not let it overcome us.


In my case, I feel lonely when I’m having my own personal and family issues. Sometimes it’s also because of my hormonal imbalance (due to PMS). Also, I feel this when I wasn’t able to do my scheduled tasks. What I do is I embrace such loneliness for a time. I try to express it through crying, writing, and praying. Once I’m done with the drama, I get back to work and feel much, much better. That’s just a simple explanation of how I deal with loneliness.

So, when do you feel lonely? What do you do when you’re lonely? How do you try to get over such feeling? Comment in the box below.


I Was Here

Everyone wants to leave a mark. We know of people who made names in the field of business, music, technology, sports, and the like. So my question is, what do you really want to be known for? What kind of person do you want to be?

This reminds me of one song that has influenced me a great deal. That song is entitled “I Was Here” by Lady Antebellum. I think songs nowadays should have a similar feel. It impresses in the minds of young people to do “something that matters,” “to say something different.” It emphasizes the possibility of being a somebody – not a nobody.

Of course preferences vary. And everyone has a choice. The important thing is, we strive to be what we want to be, without violating any important principles. I would like to share a few bits of the song with you too, and so here it goes:

“I Was Here” by Lady Antebellum

You will notice me
I’ll be leaving my mark like initials carved in an old oak tree
You wait and see
Maybe I’ll write like Twain wrote
Maybe I’ll paint like Van Gogh
Cure the common cold
I don’t know but I’m ready start cause I know in my heartI wanna do something that matters
Say something different
Something that sets the whole world on its ear
I wanna do something better
With the time I’ve been given
And I wanna try
To touch a few hearts in this life
Leave nothing less
Than something that says “I was here”

I will prove you wrong
If you think I’m all talk, you’re in for a shock
Cause this dream’s too strong
And before too long

Maybe I’ll compose symphonies,
Maybe I’ll fight for world peace
Cause I know it’s my destiny
To leave more than a trace of myself in this place

I wanna do something that matters
Say something different
Something that sets the whole world on its ear
I wanna do something better
With the time I’ve been given
And I wanna try
To touch a few hearts in this life
Leave nothing less
Than something that says “I was here”

And I know that I will do more than just pass through this life
I’ll leave nothing less than something that says “I was here”

“I was here”


Random Rina

Welcome to my nth blog!

Being a writing enthusiast, I cannot count the times I’ve used a pen and written on paper. I cannot recall the number of notebooks, journals, and even blogs I’ve kept. It’s funny that I also wrote on scratch papers because I just had no choice. I would say that writing has become a huge chunk of my life. It is one of the things that makes up who I am. Without it, my life would be boring, unproductive, and incomplete.

To revive my passion for writing, I’d like to have a new blog here on WordPress. I’d like to leave a mark on the people around me and I guess this blog would be a good start for that desire. Enjoy reading my blog! Comment if you like!